November 2011
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thank you for this gif
it is worth more than $4.71
negative $4.71
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I don’t understand this.
Is this a trick.
That awkward moment when someone messages you on OkCupid and your first reaction is “Ew, why are you black?”
Hey guys look! I’m a racist now! Yaaaaay!!!!
This is why I hate online dating. Did y’all read the oktrends post about how much it sucks to be on okcupid as a black woman?
at what fucking point in time
does any person
think this is an acceptable thought
let alone one they should post on the Internet.
also excellent use of Idris/Loki.
That fucking pig Kim Kardashian lasted 72 days after a $20 million dollar wedding and Gay Marriage is still a big fucking deal? Marriage is a joke. Your laws are jokes. You retarded, xenophobic rednecks need to die.
Fuck the South, fuck Christianity, fuck Catholicism, burn the Bible Belt. Fuck anyone that tells people who they can and can’t love.
Dorks.
nate, you couldn’t have said it any better.
Fuck the South? what the fuck does the South have to do with the Kardashian wedding?
1. Gay marriage does not need to be capitalized 2. Fuck the south? Yes… The south is the reason gay marriage is illegal… 3. Fuck Christianity? In case you haven’t noticed, Christianity is also not the sole reason Gay Marriage isn’t legal. People get so ignorant sometimes.
“You retarded, xenophobic rednecks need to die.”
Hahahahahahaha oh my god
I mean I could critique the rest of the post but this sentence in itself is everything we need to know about how stupid you are
Pretty much.
Also can we all please shut up about Kim Kardashian’s marriage? Criticize the ridiculous capitalistic elements of it, but using someone’s failed marriage as fodder for a whole bunch of reductionist political arguments is FUCKING BORING.
Y’all can do better than that. Let’s go back to imagining that there’s a katamari inside Joan Rivers, okay?
My bold on the last sentence!
Let’s please listen to Mark. It is very funny to imagine Joan Rivers being rolled up! Just think, she would be serving a greater purpose…
To help this train of thought, please have a pixture of the very cute Prince I needle-felted:
I made it out of clumps of coloured sheep’s wool, some wire, and a felting needle (not a 100% vegan-friendly craft, I’m afraid. :c).
I tried to make him to scale - he is between 5 - 6 cm, so that image is probably bigger than he actually is in real life. :)
Na naaaaaa nanananana na na na….
oh
oh my god
oh my god pear
That fucking pig Kim Kardashian lasted 72 days after a $20 million dollar wedding and Gay Marriage is still a big fucking deal? Marriage is a joke. Your laws are jokes. You retarded, xenophobic rednecks need to die.
Fuck the South, fuck Christianity, fuck Catholicism, burn the Bible Belt. Fuck anyone that tells people who they can and can’t love.
Dorks.
nate, you couldn’t have said it any better.
Fuck the South? what the fuck does the South have to do with the Kardashian wedding?
1. Gay marriage does not need to be capitalized 2. Fuck the south? Yes… The south is the reason gay marriage is illegal… 3. Fuck Christianity? In case you haven’t noticed, Christianity is also not the sole reason Gay Marriage isn’t legal. People get so ignorant sometimes.
“You retarded, xenophobic rednecks need to die.”
Hahahahahahaha oh my god
I mean I could critique the rest of the post but this sentence in itself is everything we need to know about how stupid you are
Pretty much.
Also can we all please shut up about Kim Kardashian’s marriage? Criticize the ridiculous capitalistic elements of it, but using someone’s failed marriage as fodder for a whole bunch of reductionist political arguments is FUCKING BORING.
Y’all can do better than that. Let’s go back to imagining that there’s a katamari inside Joan Rivers, okay?
October 2011
Attention Every Single Person In The World:
Don’t do this.
Whenever you happen upon someone who is sad or upset—especially someone who is dealing with depression, which is so much more than sadness and isn’t controllable and isn’t something you “just get over”—never tell them to stop feeling that way/stop expressing their feelings because it’s brining you down.
That is the absolute worst way to talk to someone in a situation like this. It completely invalidates their feelings, and it will make it seem as if you don’t have any compassion for them. It’s saying, “It makes me sad when you are sad. Don’t do that. My feelings are more important than yours, so you need to change how you feel to better suit me” accompanied with a side dish of “You should be able to control your emotions, just CHOOSE to stop feeling that way, GOD.”
Perhaps it’s some bizarre and misguided attempt to help the person feel better; IT DOESN’T WORK THAT WAY. Depression is often accompanied with a notion that you can’t share your feelings with others because it would be a burden or nobody cares, or an extreme fear that people just won’t understand or will think you’re being selfish/whiny. Saying things like this only makes those fears so much worse. Not being able to reach out to people makes depression worse. And telling a depressed person to simply stop feeling that way is callous and just plain wrong.
A Note on Invalidation: something you need to know
Invalidation is when you don’t take somebody else’s feelings seriously. It can be refusing to listen (“I don’t want to hear about that, talk about something else” or “It bums me out when you talk about that”), telling them they’re wrong (“There’s no reason to cry, why are you crying?”), or telling them to act a different way from how they are feeling (“Don’t cry/don’t be sad.” or “Just smile!” or “Don’t let yourself be sad, do X instead!”).
Invalidation is a HUGE problem, especially when it comes to dealing with people with anxiety or depression, because for them sharing emotions can be even more difficult than for those without. Anxiety and depression are accompanied by self-invalidation, telling oneself, “I don’t have any reason to feel this way” or “I’m so stupid for feeling this way” or “What’s wrong with me” or “I’m a failure, I can’t even feel normal.” People who are facing anxiety and depression need your validation of their emotions more than anything else.
Validating someone’s emotions is not the same as agreeing with them. If someone says, “I’m angry about [political issue] because of X Y and Z,” and you actually think it’s great and are not angry at all, saying, “I understand you’re angry” is not the same thing as saying “I agree with why you are angry and everything you say is true and all your opinions are the same as mine.”
Validating someone’s emotions is not even necessarily the same as understanding them. If a three-year-old is extremely afraid of dogs but has never had any sort of negative interaction with one, saying, “I know you’re scared” if the child starts crying around a dog is not the same thing as saying, “I understand your fear and I think it is rational and of course dogs are scary and you are unsafe.” You can even validate someone’s emotions while questioning the reason behind them: “I understand you’re feeling very sad right now—do you know/can you explain why you are feeling this way?”
So validation is very important, and invalidation is very bad. Don’t fall into a faux-validation trap either, though! Don’t say, “I understand you’re feeling sad, but there’s really no reason for it/try smiling/what about all the other people who have it worse off than you/I don’t want to think about sad things/you’re making me sad/talk about something else.”
Why is it so hard to say, “I understand you feel this way?” without trying to control other people’s emotions or actions? Especially in public comments like Hyperbole and a Half, if you have to say invalidating things, just don’t say anything at all.
preach.
gabs
gabs i love you for this post
so much
Hi, this is your friendly neighborhood library worker with an important PSA.
Libraries are not going to go under because of e-readers. Trust me on this one. Many libraries have already accepted the e-reader with open arms because yay! reading! (in any format) and have adopted and integrated technologies that work with e-readers. For example, the library system I work with has a mechanism which will allow you to download books of your choosing straight to your Kindle, Nook, computer, or other device. You keep the files for a certain amount of time before they ‘expire’. It’s actually kinda neat. The number of books you check out for e-readers also can go into library statistics, showing that the service the library provides is useful and so is the library! Yay!
What does hurt libraries:
-the oft-held idea that libraries are non-essential. This means that as counties struggle to balance their budgets, libraries (and parks) are generally the first things to get hit. If you’re concerned about your library, write your local government. Go to library board meetings and demand that libraries be kept in service. Donate older books and materials to organizations that work on behalf of your library. Volunteer at a library! All if you are able to, of course.
-the lack of knowledge about what libraries really do. Many people think libraries are an old relic of the past. These are the same people who think we all use card catalogs still. Libraries provide more than just reference. We provide free entertainment in the form of movies, CDs, audiobooks, video games, and magazines*. We provide places to meet and gather. We provide programs for old and young alike. We help you build the skills you need. I learned Urdu through a language program the library has a grant for. I mean, really, the things the library can do for you now is amazing.
*actual contents of your library may varyLocal governments are struggling throughout the US and libraries are getting hit hard. I understand that. So should you. It is not an e-reader that is the problem. It is the idea that libraries do not contribute anything to the quality of life, yet many people in America often look at the strength of libraries and schools as determining factors in where they want to live. We got e-readers on the radar. We know how to use them. We embrace using them. So can it with the e-readers are destroying libraries. Libraries are struggling just like any other institution. We just have to prove we’re worth hanging on to.
fucking thank you.
yep. love this.
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allie
oh my god this might be my favorite post of yours
i can’t believe how accurately this describes depression while also still being funny. <3
And are basing their lawsuit on the 13th Amendment
…
This is why I can’t get down with PETA
reblogging for the fabulous GIF
and for the sentiment
PETA, please go away.
YOU WILL HAVE TO FIGHT ME FIRST
BECAUSE KIRK ACEVEDO IS ONE HOT SON OF A BISCUIT
ME FIRST
I’m feeling RRRR OPINIONS! about the service industry, which I’ve been employed in for the last 5 years, and wanted to touch on some subjects that make me crazy.
Firstly — $0 tips, specifically when left in response to bad service and/or as punishment to the server. Let me be clear about this. I don’t think you shouldn’t be able to decide to leave no money on the table if you truly didn’t get any service and had a negative dining experience. I have left a $0 tip before.
The difference is that, when I was preparing to leave no tip, I spoke to the management about my experience. This is the one thing I never hear people my age do when they have a bad experience, and to hear that they left no tip to punish the server/waiter bugs me on a personal and and professional level.
Here’s why:
so much truth here
though I hold out the opinion that giving a $0 tip generally means you’re an asshole.
(11:20 PM PST)
Stay away from Oakland City Center (Broadway between 12th and 14th Streets). Riot police are out in full force, four (4) rounds of tear gas have been fired at people and “vandals” are being arrested at will (KPIX News called them “professional protesters”).
This is some serious shit. I live 2.2 miles away…and whatever they used to fire into the crowd was so loud that I could hear it from behind my house.
#occupy #occupyoakland #police violence #tear gas
I COULD HEAR IT TOO! I have some friends who were out protesting tonight, I hope they’re all doing all right.
FYI, my Oakland friends.
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Mark I feel that I should tell you I had mashed potato pizza once It was glorious
YOU ARE NOT TELLING ME ENOUGH
WHAT???????
I’m fine! Very humbled you would ask if I was okay. I had thought about going out tonight to show support and solidarity to these folks (I have visited them a few times), but decided against it at the last minute. Due to my little protest/arrest shenanigans from three years ago (almost to the day!), I still suffer from really intense anxiety/fear/possible phobias around cops and I’ve found it’s been really hard for me to try and attend protests that are high-profile. I’m terrified of a repeat happening.
Now I’m sort of glad I didn’t go because it’s a goddamn disaster right now, but I hope folks are paying attention to what’s happening here in Oakland.
That’s all I’ve got to say for the moment. I’m still reading up on what’s going on. Whilst, I might add, I can hear the choppers circling overhead, as I live about a mile from where this is happening.
Using roasted red potatoes. Unpeeled because every so often I like my mashed potatoes with a bit of texture.
This is not a side dish. This is my entire meal. And I have leftovers for tomorrow.
I just considered making a mashed potato sandwich. I don’t give a fuck.
I swear to eat the potatoes
the whole potatoes
and nothing but the potatoes
so help me god
Herman Cain’s Chief of Staff Mark Block, attempting to explain this inexplicable campaign ad.
[dmr.]
(via thedailywhat)
i just watched this
i can’t function right now
London Fogs are the perfect beverage for a grey and rainy day such as today. They make me feel terribly world-weary and sophisticated, I tell you. And also warm the cockles of my blackened and shrivelled heart.
For those who are not aware, a London Fog has four components. These are:
1) Earl Grey tea. Essential. The quality of the tea can make or break a London Fog (which is why it is so hard to find a truly excellent one).
2) Milk that has been steamed or frothed or whatever the arcane process is that makes milk suitable for use in lattes and latte-like beverages. That kind of milk.
3) Vanilla flavouring. Usually one of those flavour syrups.
4) Deliciousness.
In order to achieve the fourth component, the first three must be balanced in perfect harmony.
Well no, it’s always delicious. In order to maximise the fourth component, then.
I like London Fogs in cardboard + lidded takeout cups, possibly even more than in mugs. This is because if you do it right when you have a lid, there is a glorious moment near the end of the beverage when you are essentially straining the remaining fluid through the teabag, giving the whole thing extra flavour which again aids in the optimisation of component four.
tl;dr: Dorian likes tea and fancy tea-based beverages.
!!!!!!!!!!!!111
I do not usually go to coffee shops or stalls, which is a remnant of my understanding all coffee shops or stalls possible as “special treat” places rather than just places which sell drinks. So I was not aware of such delightful things as this.
*_*
That sounds AH-MAY-ZING.
Update: I have made this London Fog drink. It is everything I have ever wanted in my life. I am dedicated to it now.
Sigh.
I had my first London Fog in Toronto this year.
I then proceeded to have seven of them over the course of two days.
sweet summer child. I miss them. :(
HAHAHAHAHA. I don’t know that I could ever write a review about that show. I mean…what would I write??? IT IS TOO WONDERFUL AND INCOMPREHENSIBLE TO WRITE ABOUT.
Though now I’m thinking how funny it would be to do an entire review of GIFs.
Thank you very much! I have not watched that. What is it??
i can’t deal with this
oh my god
THANK YOU ELENA.
It has been a rad 28th birthday, as it has included:
- A trip to a giant corn maze.
- Halloween Haunt at Great America
- Vegan brunch at the Donut Farm
- A dozen vegan pumpkin and cream cheese frosting cupcakes
- Finishing off the last 5 episodes of season four of Breaking Bad with friends (HOLD ME CLOSE, OH MY GOD, THIS FUCKING SHOW)
- Watching The Walking Dead.
- More food.
- DIAGON ALLEY LEGO SET HOLY FUCK
I am accepting gifts for the next 364 days just in case.
Don’t EVEN Get Me Started, Mythical Bootstraps College Student [PERSEPHONE MAG]
“This photo suggests that a plucky someone, through hard work and austere living, should be able to graduate from college debt-free; this photo further suggests that one’s ability to do so is entirely within one’s own control, and that somehow not being able to do that constitutes a “bad decision”…however, I’m happy to refute – with facts and stuff.”
LOL LOOK AT THIS SHIT.
people like this
need to develop the ability for their hands to set everything on fire
but they can’t ever control it
So on the front cover of my town’s local paper, there are two stories about groups of students at the local high school. There’s a story about the National Honour Society inductees, almost all of whom are white or Palestinian. Then there’s a story about a forgery ring, and all of the students shown there are black. Further, they made a point of trumpeting the ringleader’s first name (his parents called him Mercedes Benz, sigh). I did some sleuthing and it happens that there were two black girls in the NHS inductees who apparently weren’t invited to appear in the paper. And there were three white kids in the forgery ring but the story did not mention them at all. How blatant is that?
ain’t that some shit.




