tw: she really means it, throughout this entirely ridiculous tirade that she probably thinks is an “unpopular opinion”, so, the usual: slut shaming, rape apologism, rape,
I am sick and tired of feminist bullshit. Empowerment doesn’t mean we should advocate for trash. We as Americans are empowered with freedom of speech. That doesn’t mean we should be protesting at the funerals of gay soldiers who fought for our country. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/16/westboro-baptist-church-funeral-protest_n_1970950.html Women are now empowered to have sex whenever, wherever but it certainly doesn’t mean we should be having sex with 4 guys a day and cheating when we’re with relationships. (Men are also empowered and sure as hell shouldn’t be doing this shit as well).
This is honestly such bull and you know why people think that sluts only apply to women? BECAUSE CRAZY FEMINISTS ONLY APPLY IT TO WOMEN. I use sluts for both males and females and I’m sure others do to. I am so sick of feminists taking on this “Oh, we are so oppressed and objectified” sort of crap when they still use antiquated terms and this sort of extremist bias. Like with rape? First it’s always the women’s fault. Now it’s always the man’s fault. It’s never ALWAYS, stfu and sit your ass down. You don’t know the fucking circumstances so you can’t fucking make your judgement on every case ever.
Also, this stupid mentality that people should still give sluts the utmost respect is BULLSHIT. I can choose whoever the fuck I give my respect to. Like Laci Green’s response to Jenna Marble’s video? “You can’t just be like I only respect women who do sex the way I do it”. UH YES I FUCKING CAN. I only respect people who do sex the way I do it, safely and with protection. I only respect people who treat homosexuals with respect and dignity. I only respect people who understand that everyone comes from different backgrounds. I only respect people who aren’t racist.
Also, there is nothing wrong with the occasional one night stand and that’s not what Jenna Marbles is objecting against. She’s objecting against this stupid belief that is reinforced by the media on young men and women that sex means that you’re desired, that you’re loved and as a result, sluts use sex to boost their self confidence and for attention. THAT’S NOT WHY YOU SHOULD BE HAVING SEX. You should be having sex because you’re fucking horny and you want to get railed by a huge black penis. Guys also equate having sex with being desired. Everyone does but it doesn’t mean that we should use sex to equate our worth and that’s what sluts are doing which is basically regressing back into objectifying women. Being used as a pair of tits and ass.
Being an avid Jenna Marbles fan, I can honestly tell you this. A lot of her other videos are full of sexual empowerment, but this video is most certainly addressing people who have sex for no fucking good reason. They can do it, but I’m sure as hell not going to give them my respect and I’m sick of fucking feminists taking this to the extreme. ANYONE WHO IS SLUTTY IS FUCKING BAD IMO REGARDLESS OF THEIR GENDER. /endrant
I’m just gonna throw this out there, because you clearly need a lifeline, honey.
Okay, the basic tenets of feminism in regard to sex positivity (assuming gender binarism, which, just… don’t assume that, okay?):
- You can have sex with whomever you like, with as many whomevers as you like, as many times as you like. So can guys.
- You can wear whatever you like, wherever you like, with/around whomever you like. So can guys.
- You can discuss your sex life with whomever you like (assuming the person wants to hear about it). So can guys.
- You have the right to not be judged, shamed, or humiliated for any of these things, just like guys.
- You have the right not to be assaulted for any of these things, just like guys.
There’s more that I’m missing — I’m aware of this, and anyone following who reblogs this can add what needs adding — but that’s the watered down version, just for you. You’re welcome.
Because that is what people are saying when they say slut-shaming is a bad thing, not any of the patriarchal bullshit you’ve been spouting all over your blog. (And sure, it’s your blog to post on, and I didn’t have to read your post at all, but I did, that bridge has been crossed, so let’s not even entertain that argument, shall we?)
About the word “slut” — I don’t think that word means what you think it means.
“Slut” is a word that was given by men to women they thought were too promiscuous, which were usually women who actually enjoyed (consensual) sex — by men who had no respect for women in the first place, and is still used by men who still don’t. It was and still is used as an excuse for rape — she like sex, she enjoys this, she was asking for it — sound familiar? It was picked up by women who decided that, “Hey, this is now a social norm, because men said so!” and used to denigrate women who they didn’t like or approve of, and to somehow place themselves above these women (most often for the approval of the male gaze, but not always). It still is used that way, more often than not. (Let’s not even talk about the racial connotations when used against women of color, because that conversation has been had, and y’all don’t ever hear it.) There’s more, but I’m not Google. If you care, go learn something. Avoid dictionary.com, by the way; common usage doesn’t always correlate to correct definition, particularly when discussing social issues.
That’s where it comes from. So, you see, when you throw that word at women you think are too promiscuous, you are slapping women in the face. Great. Fucking. Job. Kudos.
And when you toss out arbitrary numbers of how many people a (person perceived as a) woman can sleep with without being considered a slut, you are doing the exact same thing (people perceived as) men have done for centuries, you are kicking women in the neck. Including yourself.
AND when you call promiscuous women “trash” and compare their behavior (yes, even figuratively) to racists, homophobes, transphobes, you are stabbing women in the gut. Including yourself.
And when you do those things, dearie, you are hurting all of us. Including yourself.
Because whether you want to be free to have sex with seventeen guys at once on top of a moving train in the middle of nowhere in a blizzard, or to be free to have sex with one person ever for the rest of your life. The point is freedom, and choice, and the right to assert your fucking humanity without being demonized by people whose business it isn’t. That is the point. If you disagree with someone’s choice, that’s fine. If you shit-talk them for making that choice, a choice that isn’t hurting anyone, including you, that’s not fine. Period. Cut that shit out. Just stop. And just because you think it’s okay to call men sluts along with women doesn’t make it okay to decide that your way is the only way, and shame on anyone who doesn’t agree, because that is the same shit you wouldn’t respect someone for in every other case you mentioned up there. You said so yourself. Hypocrite much?
Oh, and “not always”?? Nope. Wrong again — you’re good at that, by the way.
Rape is always the rapist’s fault. The fact that current statistics show that men happen to rape more than women (assuming we’re sticking to binary gender here) is the reason the conversation is usually directed toward men. We know that men aren’t the only ones who rape people. We know that. Shut up. Fucking obviously women who rape are also at fault. Anyone who says otherwise isn’t paying the fuck attention, kinda like you.
And here’s the thing you really need to pay attention to.
It doesn’t matter how many men I have sex with, or how many times I have sex with them, or what I was wearing before we had sex, or the things we did behind closed doors, or whether I bothered to close the fucking doors, or whether we were even in a place with doors, whether we invited the neighbors, whether we set up a camera —
None of that matters. If I have sex with a guy 17 times in a row, and the 15th time he invited a friend, and that was fine with me, and the 16th time it was just a blow job, and the 17th time was on top of a pool table while his buddies were trying to play. Doesn’t. Fucking. Matter. If, before the 18th time, I said no, and he doesn’t listen and respect that, that’s rape. Fucking period. You can’t explain it way because you think I’m a slut. Rape is rape.
And rape is never acceptable. Not ever.
When you’re talking all that yakkety-yak about how women are supposed to behave, you should know what the fuck you’re talking about.
If you don’t, you should probably shut the fuck up, sit your ass down and learn something.
Or, you know, just shut the fuck up and sit your ass down.
(i was gonna do this whole thing about that “huge black penis” remark, but i don’t even think you’ll understand how racist it is to fetishize Black bodies in that way. but i mean, you didn’t mean it like that, right? and your intent is more important than the impact of your words, right? ok.)